Are You Putting Off Something Important?

I have just returned from 3 very wet days in Snowdonia. On Saturday and Sunday, I barely left the caravan. Gale force wind and rain caused the river to burst its banks, flooding the valley below the campsite. I watched it all from the cosy warmth of my caravan sofa!

I arrived in Snowdonia on Friday, tired after a long week at work and once the caravan was set up, I flopped down. I knew I should go cycling. I had come here specifically to ride my bike; the weather was overcast but dry, windy but not too cold. But I couldn’t get motivated. I sat there willing myself to go, but still, I didn’t move.

Do you find yourself experiencing this push-pull thinking when faced with exercise or something that you know you should be doing? Are you guilty of talking yourself out of acting? Are you putting off doing something important? Are you not doing something, even though, like me, it’s something that you do want to do, but still you can’t be bothered?

Sat there on my caravan sofa, my mind drifted to a book I have just finished listening to on Audible. Mel Robbins has written an excellent book called “The Five Second Rule – Transform your life, work and confidence with everyday courage”.

Her message is a simple one. There is a five-second window when we first think of something, during which, we must act; otherwise we will talk ourselves out of it. Her solution is to countdown from five to one and then take action.

Back to me sitting on the sofa in Snowdonia. I felt a bit silly, but I tried her solution of counting down.  Five, four, three, two, one and then amazingly, to my complete surprise. Just as she described, I got up of the sofa and began getting ready to go cycling. It was that easy. I couldn’t believe it.

Two hours later, back in the caravan after one of the best rides I have ever had in the UK, I reflected on how close I had been to not going. I so nearly missed out on such a beautiful cycle. The sun had come out, I climbed up narrow country lanes, through the beautiful Snowdonia national park. I barely saw a car in two hours. It felt joyous to be alive and out on my bike. It was one of those rides that bikes are made for.

I felt so lucky to have experienced it. Driving back to Nantwich after two solid days of rain and not leaving the caravan on Saturday and Sunday I reflected how close I had come to not cycling on Friday. I so nearly missed out on one of the best rides I have ever had. I almost put the trip off to the weekend, not realising that the weather was going to kill any opportunity to ride.

I came within a five, four, three, two, one of missing the most fantastic experience.

When I finished Mel’s book, I wasn’t sure if it had any real substance, I felt it might be a bit fluffy. Oh my god, how wrong I was! Don’t mistake its simplicity for ineffectiveness. It is the simplicity that gives it power.

Next time you find yourself avoiding taking the first step. Sat on the sofa thinking about activity rather than doing an action. Lying in bed, pressing the snooze button rather than up working on your goals and dreams. Please remember Mel’s message that your goals are on the other side of a simple a count. Five, four, three, two, one – GO! You can do it too. It is as easy as it sounds. Long before others believe, you must believe it’s possible.

Remember, we climb the mountain, not in giant leaps but one small step at a time.

Thanks For Reading!

Hi, I’m Luke Bream, the author of this blog, one of the co-founders of Valentte, hillwalker, cyclist, dreamer and an eternal optimist! My writing is focused on learning how we create the life we have always imagined, become the person we have always wanted to be in order to fulfill the dreams and goals we have set ourselves. I believe there is a power within each of us to achieve whatever we commit to mastering. Want to hear more? Read my full story. (coming soon…)

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7 replies on “Are You Putting Off Something Important?

  • Angela Bartle

    Only the other day I also was in that state of can’ t be bothered, getting a bit bored with going to the gym, so swimming I thought for a change. Then I thought to much hassle, water will be cold etc etc. Then I just thought for a second or two might have been a subconscious count down and just got up and went. To my surprise the water was warm and refreshing and swam for a good half hour without stopping which I was pleased about, not swam for ages. But the best think was I met a friend from my growing up years. We played together down the ginnel, rolling skating, skipping, tic etc. Now here we are all grown up each with grandchildren to enjoy, yet seemed only like yesterday. Just one sad point another of our gang has breast cancer a lovely girl. I have passed on my love to her, my friend will see her soon. Looking back there was some subconscious reason that made be go swimming that day. If I had not I would never had met my friend and been able to say a goodbye to another. So that can’t be bothered syndrome must be addressed with a five four three two one. Life is for living go and enjoy.

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    • Valentte

      Hi Angela
      That is such a lovely story, though I’m sorry to hear about your friend’s cancer Thank you for sharing. It’s so often the case that if we push ourselves to go and do something that amazing, unexpected things come out of it. We just need a push.
      Best Wishes
      Luke x

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  • Lisa

    I read this at the exact time i needed to. I have been aware of the 5 second rule fir a while and i am going to make a proper effort to implement it. Thankyou

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    • Valentte

      HI Lisa
      Thank you for taking the time to comment. The Five second rule sounds so simple that it is easy to dismiss it. But I hope you find it as effective as I have.
      Best Wishes
      Luke x

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  • Agnes

    I’m so going to try this each day I say I’m going to do this or that but can’t get motivated but I’ve nothing to lose trying this as it might have came at the right time for me as so much has been happening lately

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